Why can't he lock it down?

Lock it down, seal the deal; there are numerous expressions the males use to claim victory. But some guys just can’t seem to ‘lock down’ the relationship. They go on a date with a girl, show interest in a relationship, pursue, and nothing ever happens. I know this one guy and trust me whenever I introduce one of my friends to him they instantly fawn over him. He just has this cool demeanor to him that makes the ladies want more. Sometimes, even I, the quintessential pessimist, succumb to his charm. There is no reason why girls shouldn’t be falling down at his door step and there are some girls who do exactly that; but, when he does find a girl that he actually likes he fails to advance to the next step.

So why does this keep occurring? To be honest, I don’t really know. Maybe it’s because he tends to like girls who look like models. Meaning that that the model girl already has multiple suitors; thus, she is the decider of the potential relationship. Since the model girl has an entourage of males to choose from, it is likely she will pick the best candidate for the ‘boyfriend’ position.

Lesson: There will always be someone better, whether they are better looking, taller, smarter, or richer. When we perceive someone as being the best they are essentially just that and completely out of our league. In turn what they perceive as the best is coincidently out of their league. It's a vicious cycle that is continuous as people are always striving to do better. It is the basis of Darwin’s theory 'survival of the fittest'. You date to get ahead, to progress in life's path and I am honestly convinced that this concept is what ends marriages.

Katharine Hepburn had four major affairs in her life. All of the men were married, and all were very helpful to her at different stages in her career- a well-known playwright, an agent, a big producer, and a leading man. Coincidence? I don’t think so. Women choose men (whether it be boyfriends, husbands, or in Katharine’s case affairs) based on what they can provide in the relationship. Again, do you think it’s a coincidence that 2 out of 3 males at BYU are on the pre-professional track? The fact is that more is being expected out of men in every aspect of the relationship. I honestly feel bad for males (sometimes) because there is so much pressure on them to be the complete package.

I realize that this post is not being directed towards the nuns, I suppose this advice is for the model girls. I guess they just have to stop having expectations. The model girls need to be more lenient and realize that correlation does not imply causation. Meaning that if a guy isn't the 'college type' it doesn't mean he is going to be less successful at being the provider. He should still be given a chance. It might take some time adjusting to the fact that you aren't going to be a doctor's wife, but you never know: One day you might be thankful he is actually home.

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