The other day I googled “how to tell if he likes you.” The results of this search taught me one thing: apparently, I was supposed to figure out the signs to tell if a boy likes me back in middle school. There is tons of advice on the web for struggling middle school girls, but what about the advice for us nuns? I feel like back in middle school that some potential nuns were too preoccupied with friendships, school work, and extra-curricular activities to even being thinking “seriously” about love. Middle school is awkward enough with without having to also try to decipher the male mind. But, I guess it’s better to figure out these things in middle school than to be in the position that many nuns are in right now: late teens, early twenties still clueless about dating.
I know that there are probably some current nuns who understood how to tell if boys liked them back in middle school. They probably had it down to a science then and thrived, but now that they are older their abilities seemed to have diminished substantially. Why did that happen? It seems like a cruel trick of fate. We’re past middle school and there’s no going back, so we’ve got to make up for the deficit somehow. If I have learned one thing in this past month of my life, it is that if a guy is genuinely interested in you, you won’t even have to ask Google for the answer.
He will find ways to make it known to you because he will take the time out to pursue. He will want to talk to you. He will want to find ways to be around you. He will initiate interaction. Now this is not to say that as nuns we just have to sit around and wait to be pursued. Also, this does not say that if no one is pursuing us (which may be a true case right now) that there is no hope for us. Plenty of great relationships have happened when the boys couldn’t initially see how great the girl was at first.
As nuns, we have a habit of hiding behind our awkwardness, insecurities, or fear of rejection, and that is why some guys won’t consider dating us at first. Once we find confidence in our ability to interact with boys, they will see this confidence in us and will FLOCK to our door. But, I think that it all begins with our ability to be patient with ourselves and to take our interactions with boys one step at a time.
<3 The Nunnery
