I think that the one thing that stands in the way of getting asked out or asking someone else out is the unattainable man. We all know the unattainable man quite well; he is the ideal man contrived from all of those Young Women and Sunday school lessons or any list we’ve ever made that addresses the qualities we’d like our future spouse to have. We’ve been told time and again that “who you date is who you marry” and so subconsciously that list comes out and we start to compare those who try to get close to us with the “ideal” person we’ve created.
While the concept of the list creates a great foundation to help us avoid dating complete jerks, we must still remember that one person ALONE cannot possess every trait on our list; after all, no one’s perfect. This is where the idea of the unattainable man comes in, because it may cause us to become preoccupied with searching for a person who may not actually exist. In our search for the unattainable man, we may not recognize the good traits that others may have to offer that may not exactly be qualities we put on our list.
Maybe if we take a break from our quest, we may find that the traits we once saw as “imperfections” (those qualities absent from the list) in those we may have never thought about dating will grow into qualities that we enjoy about them. We may even find that these people may even possess some of those qualities on our list as well.
Now I’m not saying that we should just date every craze on the street and I’m not knockin’ the idea of finding your “perfect” match, but I’m just saying that maybe if we keep an open mind, and try a different approach that we may be happy with the outcome. We may find that we can gain a great friend just by talking to someone we wouldn’t think we’d have anything in common with before. It’s all about making friends first . . .
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